652: Agreement Support

Agreement. What is an Agreement? To me, in the context of how I've been living it, it's a point of understanding the time and space needed and required to actually change.

My partner and I agreed to walk this life together - to learn how to live and exist as equals, to work and live as partners in life. What I've realized recently is it's about actually agreeing, UNCONDITIONALLY, to walk the time it takes to actually change. And when I react to things 'not changed yet', even though I see the determination and commitment, it implies I am not unconditional in my agreement.

The agreement is agreeing to walk THIS LIFE, until it's done. If it takes 90 years to change ourselves - is it worth it? Yes, because Life is worth it. And within that - it's not about waiting for the other to change.. the agreement is about SELF. ME changing ME. My partner is here within the same stance and that is what we agreed to.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be conditional in my agreement in needing things to change within a certain time frame instead of realizing what it means to actually LIVE an agreement as a living principle - agreeing to give and live support for oneself and another, UNTIL IT'S DONE

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that an agreement is not about how long it takes to change, but is the nature of the partnership that allows the space to change - the environment which facilitates change

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to be an unconditional point of support for my partner in having expectations on when he should be changing and in what ways he should be changing instead of giving him the space he needs to walk his process, as I see he does, and being here as a point of support when he needs it, as he is here for me when I need it

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to see, realize, and understand that an agreement is not a need of a partnership, but rather individuals willing to walk together as equals, alone

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that an agreement is the space to create change not the agreeing to have expectations or desires in life

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to give my partner the space he requires to change and to thus give myself the space I require to change and so giving each other the space necessary to change - in that becoming supporters in change and not enforcers of change

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that an agreement is not about expectations of each person but rather principles as what we are willing to walk and the nature of our walking together - but that there exists no conditions of time as we agree to give this life to walk what we need to change who we are in this life and who we are in relation to this life

When and as I see myself expecting a change from my partner as an expectation of a timeframe in which there must be change, I stop and I breathe. I see, realize, and understand that the agreement we walked into was an agreement for LIFE to walk this lifetime together, alone, to change ourselves and to support each other to change and that there was no stipulation on when that change had to happen and rather depended absolutely on each partner as their willingness to walk self-change and so I commit myself to stop the need for change in a timeframe as I realize I am living a conditional agreement and rather free myself within the agreement I walk with my partner as giving each other this life to do what's necessary to be done and to get it done

I commit myself to give my partner the time and space he needs to change and to be here as a point of unconditional support as the living agreement we set out for ourselves

I commit myself to give myself the time and space I need to change and to ask for support from my partner when I require as he is here standing in unconditional support

I commit myself to create the space within my agreement where each has the time and space to do what they need to do to support themselves and to not put on any expectations on either of us and rather remember the agreement is about the principle of walking together within a starting point of self-change and that as long as each is standing in that point, we can walk as equals and so I commit myself to become unconditional in my starting point of walking together, yet alone, with my partner as knowing I don't know how long it will take, but we will walk this until it's done.

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