665: Wanting Another to "Come Clean"

Here I share self-forgiveness in relation to a reaction I had towards another where I assumed to know they were not coming from the "right" starting point... assuming they were "not clear" in where they were coming from and wanting them to "come clean" as a point of being self-honest about what they were accepting and allowing.... The QUESTion: Where is My Starting Point?

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to assume to think where another person is coming from

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to assume to know where another person is coming from when they say something, and to react to what they say and want them to 'come clean' about where they were coming from instead of realizing I was coming from a specific place... from the past where I based who a person was in their past on who they are now - ASSuming they have not changed

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to assume people do not change instead of realizing how anyone can change as I've seen within myself I can change and so I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to give others the benefit of the doubt as I've given myself

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not let go of the past as assuming people are the way they've always been and think and believe they haven't changed

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think and believe I KNOW where others are coming from as if it's a gift of awareness instead of realizing it's a burden of assumption I am placing on others to prove to me I'm wrong instead of ME taking responsibility to ensure I am not assuming anything about anyone

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to push others to be self-honest about their starting point instead of pushing myself to be self-honest about mine

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to slow down in moments when I'm reacting, even if I've convinced myself I am not reacting and I KNOW another person is wrong or at fault or not 'clear' in where they are coming from - this should be a red flag I am reacting and so I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to challenge myself before I challenge others

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to push others to become self-honest about what they are saying and why instead of questioning my own self-honesty and about what I'm saying and why

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define people on their past actions and behaviors

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define people according to MY own assumptions about them

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to limit people by assuming to know where they are coming from

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to SEE others actions and hear their words to be able to know where they are coming from instead of looking to my own thoughts for answers without realizing my thoughts are not to be trusted

When and as I see myself assuming to know another person is not coming from a "clear" place, I stop and I breathe. I see, realize, and understand here that I am projecting an idea another another and holding them hostage to the past of who they were and thinking and believing "they haven't changed" as if they are incapable when I know for a fact people can change and so I commit myself to use such a reaction of "wanting another to come clean about where they are coming from" as a red flag for myself to see where I am coming from and to forgive my starting point as I am coming from a past moment/reaction/assumption/belief/idea about who this person is in this moment.

I commit myself to look at my own starting point before I dare to question another

I commit myself to take responsibility for my starting point before I question another

I commit myself to start trusting others can and are changing as I've seen myself able to do

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