28 July 2015

419: What is the Living Word?

Before the final blog in the series I've been walking, here is a Live Desteni I Process Google Hangout I hosted this evening, with a fellow destonian on Living Words:

What does it mean to become the Living Word? How is one able to redefine words so that they are practically lived? Why is it important for us to understand our relationship to words? How does your definitions of words influence your life? Join Us as we discuss these questions and many more with our guest Mike McDonald as he shares with us his process of self-empowerment through redefining words.




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27 July 2015

418: Giving Up My Emotional Want

Finishing up the last part of this blog series I've been walking. Read the following for context:

414: Hiding Out in a Limitation
415: The Belief about Self behind a Limitation
416: Get Comfortable with the Uncomfortable Experience
417: A Compromise and Consequence of Self-Interest

When and as I see myself holding onto a fear rather than considering others in my environment and how my actions may affect them physically, I stop and I breathe. I see, realize and understand that I’m giving more value to a fear than actual physical reality, and only through accepting and allowing self interest could create such a point and so I commit myself to stop existing within my own self interest and instead dare to consider those around me, and how my actions effect them, and how in my lack of change, I can create consequences not only for myself, but for others as well

When and as I see myself existing within a starting point of want/fear of getting/not getting the lesser traffic computer station at work, I stop and I breathe. I see, realize, and understand that within such a starting point, I am not seeing/considering or standing in the shoes of another, and instead only seeing my own self interest and so I commit myself to consider others, their reasons for wanting particular computer stations at work, and how whether my want is actually valid in the context of another’s needs

When and as I see myself not caring about how others physically experience themselves, I stop and I breathe. I see, realize and understand that this could be due to an emotional want that I’ve given more value to as existing within self interest, wherein my emotional experience created through my mental reality has been given top priority, yet without realizing I am not considering the actual reality – the physical – the others in that reality and how they experience themselves. I commit myself to give myself the opportunity of changing as well as considering others in my environment, and dare to change myself by giving up the computer station I ‘prefer’ and give it to another, letting go of my fear, and giving another more physical comfort

When and as I see myself putting another’s physical experience in jeopardy because I’m holding onto a fear, I stop and I breathe. I see, realize, and undersand this is due to a belief that I cannot let go of the fear, that I have the right to the fear, and that I cannot possibly change the fear. I commit myself to realize the fears are not real, they are just self-created, and showing the real power of self wherein we can create our own fears and fear them without having them grounded in physical reality whatsoever – so separated from physical reality we would actual compromise another physically for our fear

When and as I see myself not standing in the shoes of another, such as allowing another to stand at the computer station that I want to hide out at, yet that supports one physically with a taller computer stand, I stop and I breathe. I see, realize, and understand that this not a way to live as it’s not living by principles that are best for all and so I commit myself to stand in the shoes of another, to understand what THEY are experiencing and to do unto them what I would have done unto me if I were in their shoes… a living principle and application that would remove self interest and create a world that is best for all

Will close this blog series up in the blog to follow - sharing the corrective application I've been waking in real-time in alignment to these blogs.



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25 July 2015

417: A Compromise and Consequence of Self-Interest

I've been looking at this point that opened up at work last week, and it's interesting to see the different layers/dimensions of it. First there was the fear, the limitation, and the belief about myself behind the limitation. Now to the self interest. Read the previous blogs for context:

414: Hiding Out in a Limitation
415: The Belief about Self behind a Limitation
416: Get Comfortable with the Uncomfortable Experience

The following is self-forgiveness for the Self interest of wanting my ‘wants’ based on fear/emotions and so not considering others physical needs:

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not consider others needs when a fear is driving me to make decisions within my work environment

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to see and hold my fear of being at a high traffic computer and the potential of more interaction with people at work become more important to me than how another is physically, where I will not give up the computer station because of a fear, and not be willing to, based on another’s physical need of a taller computer station that does not cause back pain for them, give up that which I think protects me from my fear

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to get to the lesser traffic computer station before another, within a fear/want and not consider the reasons another person wants this particular work station

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to give more value and importance to my emotional wants rather than someone else’s physical needs

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not care about how another physically feels as long as I get what I emotionally want, which is to stay within a fear that keeps me in a comfort zone as a limitation and so ultimately a self-interest

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to exist in such a way wherein I would put another persons physical experience in jeopardy simply because I’m holding onto a fear that I believe I cannot let go of and think that I have that right, or think that I cannot possibly change my mind about it

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not stand in the shoes of another as the reason for their want to be at the computer station that I fear to not stand at, as understanding how they physically expreince themselves, and how giving up my computer station, and so my fear, would alleviate some pain for another and their physical body

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to do unto another as I would have done unto me, which is for others to put aside their self interest and act in a way that is best for all, and based in a practical physical reality assessment, and not only thinking about their emotional state and the wants derived from that, especially if it were to compromise my physical well-being

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to be willing to give another physical relief and instead hold onto my emotional want

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear letting go of my fear of having to actually change, when seeing another would benefit from me moving into the higher traffic work station

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to see it is in fact best for all for me to give up my fear of moving to a higher traffic work station, as it also coincides with another standing at a work station that has a taller computer stand and so another does not have to look down as much, and will not cause as much back pain for them – and so seeing, realizing and understanding that not only moving to the computer station that I resist will support me in walking through the fear/resistance, it will also support another physically

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to practice this gift of seeing what is best for all and then acting on it – realizing that through self interest we think we cannot possibly do what is best for all, or that such a concept is so foreign, yet it is so simply right in front of our faces, if only we’d be willing to be self honest with ourselves. When we act in ways that is best for ourselves, we act in ways that is best for all

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to for so long exist within self interest that I have apparently lost the ability to see and assess what is best for all

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that when I do what is best for me in the context of self honesty and self change, I inherently am doing what is best for all, as I am equal to and one with all, and such as this situation with work, me making the decision to face my fear and give up the work station I want to hide at, supports another simultaneously within their physical body – it is a win win situation, showing they do exist 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to compromise and create consequence for myself and others in acting within self interest, as holding onto and hiding out within a fear that is a limitation for myself and actually compromise another physically.

It seems like such a small point, yet it is a big example of the type of living we've accepted and allowed of ourselves where we do not care to see reality, and those within it, and how our actions or non-actions effects others. When we stand up and face our fears, change who we are, and change our behavior, we are standing up and changing for others equally in a way that supports physical life and living.

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23 July 2015

416: Get Comfortable with the Uncomfortable Experience

Continuing on with the self-limitation shared in my previous blog, here are the corrective and commitment statements from the self-forgiveness shared in yesterday's blog. For more context, check out the series so far:

414: Hiding Out in a Limitation
415: The Belief about Self behind a Limitation

When and as I see myself fearing standing at the high traffic computers at work, I stop and I breathe. I see, realize, and understand that this is based within an idea that the more people I will deal with, the more potential there is for conflict. I commit myself to not participate in this fear, based on an idea and instead work with my physical environment, as my physical surroundings, my body, and my breathing.

When and as I see myself resisting to stand in a position where I will more likely interact with more people, such as the high traffic computer stations at work, I stop and I breathe. I see, realize, and understand that this fear is simply a resistance I’ve created to making a mistake or where I may have conflict with others. I commit myself to not participate in the fear, or the resistance, and instead realize the resistance and the fear support me in where I can place myself to expand myself and so I commit myself to rather than fearing this, to embrace this and go for it as actually standing at the computer stations where I will more likely deal with more people, and thus face and walk through this fear and resistance.

When and as I see myself within a want to stand at a particular computer station that I was told has less traffic of people, I stop and I breathe. I see, realize, and understand that this want is actually based within a fear, as well as an idea that if I were to stand at that station, then I will have less opportunity to work with people, and thus less potential of making a mistake or facing conflict with others. I commit myself to not trust any want that may come up, and instead be self honest about the starting point of the want, as it may be within fear, which does not support me if I were to allow myself to move from it, as it validates the fear. I commit myself to rather breathe and clear myself of the want as the fear as the starting point, and instead make a practical decision based on self-support and that which will actually expand and develop my skills and experiences.

When and as I see myself fear making a mistake at work, I stop and I breathe. I see, realize, and understand that this fear to make a mistake is actually a belief that I will then be defined as a failure. I commit myself to let go of the idea that to make a mistake is to fail and to rather see the opportunity of making a mistake as simply that, a miss-take, wherein I learn how to do things differently, the potential outcomes of different situations, and how to best direct myself in any given circumstance. I commit myself to embrace the mistakes as learning lessons for myself in my journey to life.

When and as I see myself automatically running within a fear away from doing something I perceive to be a challenge, I stop and I breathe. I see, realize, and understand that it’s automated for me to run from that which I believe to be a challenge because it’s something I’ve always accepted and allowed of myself, and it will take equally as much action to reverse the habit to no longer allow myself to think I am unable to face a challenge or move through that which I believe may be difficult. I commit myself to embrace the difficulty and the challenges as being opportunities for me to grow and expand, learn and to give as much time, attention, and corrective action to creating new habits that actually support me instead of keeping me within a fear

When and as I see myself wanting to stay at the computer station at work with less guest traffic, I stop and I breathe. I see, realize, and understand that another aspect of this want is based within a fear of others judging me if I were to make a mistake. I commit myself to stop allowing the fear of how others may see me, influence me, and instead focus on myself, and my own development and how I am able to practically change and develop myself, which is to put myself in those situations that allow for more opportunity of experience at my work – standing at the higher traffic work station, putting myself into the game if you will – facing the situations that may arise and learning how to direct myself and the situation equally… removing ‘other people and what they think of me’ out of the equation and instead making my change of most value and importance

When and as I see myself wanting to stay in my comfort zone as the fear of facing difficulty or conflict, or making mistakes, I stop and I breathe. I see, realize, and understand that this comfort zone is simply a space in which I believe I can’t, and don’t want to move beyond, yet it is a limitation and restriction I’ve set up within myself, with imaginary boundaries and so I commit myself to set myself free from my own self-created enslavement and instead put myself into the situation where I will get the direct experience, and so knowledge and understanding of situations that will better prepare me for a wide array of situations and challenges. I commit myself to realizing that if I don’t move beyond my comfort zone, I will always stay the same.

When and as I see myself fearing or resisting situations that I define as difficult or challenging or that may create conflict with others, I stop and I breathe. I see, realize, and understand that this limitation is actually based on a belief about myself that I’m not capable or able to direct myself and so I end up opting to stay ‘in my place’ as the comfort zone that shields me from any experience that I may fear. I commit myself to realizing this belief implies I cannot change, and will not change and that in allowing this fear, I am validating this self-belief. I commit myself to let go of this self belief as a self-limitation and instead decide for ME what I will do, who I will be, how I will experience myself and so how I will work

When and as I see myself fearing others getting upset with me as a future projection of possible scenarios at work, I stop and I breathe. I see, realize, and understand that within this projection, I’ve already reacted and taken it personally and so my starting point of fear is directing me within my working situation. I commit myself to let go of the projections and the fears and instead work breath by breath, moment by moment, directing myself as each point comes up rather than in a future image within my mind that does not actually exist or has not actually played out in reality.

I commit myself to stand at the higher traffic computer stations at work as making the directive decision within myself to move beyond my self-created fears and limitations, to no longer accept and allow a fear of conflict, making a mistake, and what others may think of me determine who I am or how I experience myself and instead stand up within myself and practice the art of self-directive living, wherein I become self directive principle of myself in every moment, as every breath, working with the physical and no more allowing my mental realm as the mind determine where or how I exist. 

No more comfort zone, time to get uncomfortable as stepping out into the unknown and expanding self into a new potential.



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22 July 2015

415: The Belief about Self behind a Limitation

So continuing from the previous blog, there are two points requiring self-forgiveness. In this blog I will address the first point,  Limiting myself within a fear/resistance/avoidance to standing at the ‘higher traffic’ computer stations at work.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear standing at the high traffic computer stations at work within the idea that the more people I will deal with, the more potential for conflict exists

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear situations and experiences where I might make a mistake, or where there may be conflict with others, and to within this, allow a resistance to standing in such a position where I will more likely interact with more people

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to stand at a computer station at work that was told to me to be the one with lesser traffic of guests, and to within this, want to stand here because within this, thinking and believing I will not have to deal with as many people, and so the potential of making a mistake becomes less than if I were to stand at a computer station where more people are likely to come to

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear making a mistake as defining it as being a failure, instead of seeing the experiences as the opportunities to learn and to expand my skills and abilities and to thus be more comfortable and effective, through practice, of handling all kinds of situations at work

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to automatically run within a fear towards something I perceive to be a challenge or that may be difficult for me, or where I may make a mistake, seeing it automatically as a negative, rather than an opportunity for self-growth and expansion

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to coward in the face of a challenge, or where I may make mistakes

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear others judging me if I were to make a mistake and so to within this, rather stay at the computer station where there is less opportunity to interact with guests where the potential for conflict/challenges/difficulties may arise

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to rather stay in my comfort zone as the fear of facing difficulty or possible conflict, then to put myself in a situation where I will get direct experience, and so knowledge and understanding of situations that will better prepare me for a wide array of situations/challenges

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go to the computer that I believe to have less traffic as a point of hiding and allowing myself to resist facing my fears and beliefs about a challenging situation, and to opt out of getting more experience, and rather hide out in the corner, as the comfort zone I’ve created as a self-defining limitation I exist within

I forgive myself that I gave accepted and allowed myself to define myself in such a way where I allow a fear of challenges or difficult situations to determine what I do, where I must believe I am not capable or able to direct myself in such a difficult or challenging situation, and so rather keep myself ‘in my place’ as already accepting myself as unable to change, expand, direct myself, or direct my reality

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear others becoming upset with me, and to within this already take it personally, as a starting point of the fear that directs me to stay in the more quite computer station

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to see and define myself as inferior to the fear I face, as the potential for conflict with others, or making a mistake, or having to direct difficult situations or challenges, as wanting to immediately run away, within the belief that I am not capable, instead of seeing myself as EQUAL to the situation/people/reality/environment in which I am, and within the realization that all I require is self-directive principle in taking charge of my own stability to best handle any/all situations/challenges

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to prefer existing within a fear and so resistance to a challenge, or change, or new experience, rather than pushing myself beyond a limitation wherein I think I am not capable or unable to change and transform myself into a self that is stable and able to direct myself and my reality effectively and without reactions and so live the actual application of self-expansion in longer allowing an idea or definition about myself determine who I am or how I experience myself or how I move myself within my work

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20 July 2015

414: Hiding out in a Limitation

One point I am seeing within myself at work is a point of self-dis-empowerment.

There are 3 computer/work stations where I work, and while I was in training, I was told a certain station had less traffic then the others, and one had the most traffic. I’ve noticed now, since being out of training, and on my own, my first choice of work stations is the one that apparently has the less traffic. Initially I considered this was a point of getting comfortable still with the job position, and as I was still learning the job and getting amalgamated, I was wanting to be there with the less guest traffic, as being less pressure essentially.

Though today I saw it more in relation to two specific points: self-interest and a limitation I am accepting and allowing. 

A self interest point because another worker also prefers that station, the one with the apparent less traffic. Though it’s due to a physical comfort point, where the computer screen is higher for her and so less pressure on her back. When this was told to me, even though I had the my choice of computers, I didn’t want to move, because essentially I ‘wanted’ that station, the one with the less traffic, and it wasn’t due to a physical reason or comfort-ability or support, it was because it was considered to have ‘less traffic’, and for me, that meant less participation, or less responsibility on my part. I could ‘get away’ with not doing as much. And it didn’t matter to me that my co-worker may have physical discomfort, my wants were more important to me.

So that is the first point. 

The second part is The limitation, which is essentially me avoiding/resisting the more active stations, where I would have more interaction with the guests/customers, there I would be faced with more possible situations, more potential for conflict or errors or mistakes, though I see these are all learning opportunities, and yet here I’ve been hiding from it.

Another aspect of this computer station that has become my preferred station is that Its almost like tucked into this nice little corner, so it’s literally like a comfort zone, in the corner, out of sight/out of the action and so out of the potential for failure (said my fear) or perhaps even out of the way of facing some uncomfortable experience I may have when interacting with other people.

So it’s a limitation because I’m accepting this state of self – wherein I think I cannot handle a lot of pressure, I cannot handle conflict, I would rather be put to the side, in the corner, hidden and out of "harms" way. Though the harm is an idea/thought in my mind – a projection of some future situation that doesn’t actually exist, that is based on some past moments - it’s really just my own fears coming up. The mind and and it's irrationality.

So a practical application I see that can support in facing this fear is to make the decision to work at the stations that I resist – the one with the most traffic, or at least the one with the medium amount of traffic. Though – ‘at least’ – it’s like doing the bare minimum… why not go for the glory, dive into the deep end, face the biggest fear and walk through it? So what I see I can do to support myself in correcting this point, as it is misaligned and does not support self-empowerment. To empower myself is to stop the fear, not allow it to influence/direct me, and instead dare to face my fears, face the people, get the experience and walk myself into a point of comfort-ability within/as myself, within/as my job position.

And of course, to start considering others, and their physical requirements rather than my emotional wants. 

Self forgiveness in the blog to follow.







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